It must not have been easy for you to admit that.

The thought that your husband hates you is intense.

It’s connected with pain and shame – two very powerful emotions.

That’s why it’s not something you discuss casually at the next girls’ night out.

You probably feel paralyzed and helpless, and it’s hard to think about.

Your husband may never have told you to your face that he hates you.

But you feel it.

– He is constantly annoyed by you.
– Sees everything you do negatively.
– You (almost) never touch each other.

You feel the power of rejection every day.

On top of that, you fear losing him.

So you try to make everything right for him, but nothing changes.

I have good news for you:

A separation is unlikely at this point.

Jane had really thought it through.

The advent calendar she had given Sam was filled with all the little snacks he liked.

The only thing that came from him:

A short thank you.

She had imagined it differently.

A little more gratitude for all her work would have been nice.

What Jane doesn’t know:

Sam doesn’t care about gifts.

You can have a seemingly perfect spouse, a big house, rewarding careers, money in the bank, and beautiful kids.

Yet somehow, your marriage is on the rocks because you don’t know how to talk to your spouse.

About 50% of participants in various studies on married couples have cited poor communication as a reason for divorce.

A lack of communication that leads to conflict has also been cited by Couple Family Psychology as one of the top three precursors to divorce.