Have you heard the phrase “it’s better to be with the wrong person than by yourself?”
It is bollocks.
Our DNA and ‘herd’ mentality makes us fear being alone, and this fear may drive us to stay in a relationship even though it is already unhealthy.
Sometimes we can be so blinded by the thought of security having a partner can give, without even noticing the signs of an unhealthy relationship.
If you currently feel that the affair you’re in right now is causing you undue emotional pain, lowered self-esteem, and unhappiness, you are in a damaging relationship.
If you ignore the signs of an unhealthy relationship it will not only affect your happiness, but it will affect your family, your friends, your career and your self esteem.
Not all unhealthy relationships are unsalvageable, but you need to take great care when trying to salvage them as it may be better for both of you if it ends.
# Lack of Communication – One of the most important factors in every relationship is communication.
Without it, there is no means to establish a bond, there is no sharing of ideas and encouragement, and most importantly, there is no avenue for growth.
When you feel that communication is lacking between you and your partner, be the first to address the problem. The longer it is left unattended, the more prone your relationship will be to a breakup.
Initiate a talk and express your desire for better communication, in this way both of you are aware of the problem and you can start taking the necessary steps to repairing your communication lines.
# Unsupportive Environment – One of the signs of an unhealthy relationship is when your partner is unsupportive of your personal goals. You are placed in this world for a purpose, and that purpose is to become the best that you can be.
If your partner constantly brings you down by criticizing your dreams, or being indifferent when you express your goals, then this is a warning sign that there is indeed something wrong.
What’s even worse is when your partner becomes the reason that prevents you from developing your talents and skills. One way to remedy this is by showing support in the interests of your partner and voicing out how you would like his or her support as well.
Be aware that even though you may try these things, it may be that your spouse may not be interested in reciprocating. This is an indication not only that it is time to move on, but that you have also done your best to save your relationship, so you can leave with your head held high.
# Physical Abuse – Under no circumstance should your partner hit you. Many people, especially women, who have been physically abused, can surprisingly find excuses why it’s ok for their partner to batter them.
These excuses stem from low self esteem issues and should be addressed immediately. If your partner has hit you either only a “few” times, or continuously, recognize that you are in an unhealthy relationship and that you should bring this relationship to a close. Today.
# Verbal Abuse – Physical assaults are much easier to identify than verbal abuse. Some people may not even be aware that this is considered to be a form of domestic violence.
If your partner is in the habit of speaking to you in a degrading manner, you must find the strength to make it stop. Evaluate how you feel after your spouse talks to you in hurting words, and be empowered in knowing that every person deserves to be treated with respect.
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A relationship always complements the people that are in it. A nurturing and loving environment is essential for the growth of an individual and for the attainment of personal goals. If you have spotted signs of an unhealthy relationship, don’t hesitate to address it.
Let your partner know your feelings and concerns and give them the opportunity to work with you to make it better.
Eventually what once was a troubled union, could become a harmonious and loving partnership, or you can leave with the strength, self respect and knowledge to find a better person for your next relationship.
With more than twenty years experience in the field, Elizabeth Davis is a well known and respected relationship adviser. Through her site she offers free, no-holds-barred counseling, friendship and support to anyone experiencing difficulties in their relationship. Let her help you to a life filled with the unconditional love and laughter you deserve.