There is nothing wrong with learning new techniques to make the man of your dreams fall for you.
However, the books you read teach a generic formula to help women land a guy.
If you are reading them, the chances are that any other single woman is also reading them.
Hence, the techniques you learn are the same that other women use to make your man fall for them.
You do not just want your ideal man to fall in love with any other girl, right?
Despite what you learn from books you read on dating and relationships, the best thing you can do when using the advice you know from those books is to put your twist on them.
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Putting the real you out there is crucial for you to rise above the group of single women who are out to get available men.
There are a lot of techniques women use to get a guy to fall for them, and you need to make your calls in choosing which ones to employ.
You cannot just use every trick you learn from the books. Pick those that can help you highlight your personality and use them to your advantage.
Here are some ways to make a man notice you and eventually fall in love with you.
Remember The Theory Of Proximity
As human beings, we like familiarity and tend to get attracted to those we are familiar with.
If you find someone or something attractive, the more often you see it or him, the more attracted you will become.
If you see a guy you like, keep him close by.
I do not mean to turn yourself into an obsessive stalker. You have to be subtle, or he will think you are pretty yet creepy.
You will likely see him again if you go to the same spots, such as the gym, coffee shop, or your favorite diner.
If you run into him a third time, say hi to him. If you hit it off positively one night, there is no harm in letting him know that you want to hang out with him again. The more you see each other, the more likely he will fall for you.
Remember to be subtle, and do not manipulate situations for you to see each other again.
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Take Cues From Self-Disclosure
Revealing things about yourself can help increase your attractiveness to the man you want to fall for you. Telling him about who you are, creates a degree of closeness, letting him feel closer and more comfortable with you.
Sharing secrets and personal stories imply trust. Your willingness to open up to the other person means that you are ready to form a relationship, platonic or romantic, with him. Self-disclosure is crucial in amplifying your intimacy level with the other person.
This does not mean you have to tell him everything about you in just one night. Reveal one detail at a time. You do not want him to get burdened by information.
Moreover, choose which detail you need to disclose. This might be letting him know how much you like Picasso’s art or how many siblings you have.
Once you feel that you can sincerely trust him, you can start telling him about your life plans or goals that you still want to accomplish.
Just think of yourself as a puzzle, and by giving him clues about yourself, he is completing a picture of you in his mind. Remember to provide him with one hint at a time, or else you will scare him off if you tell him your entire biography in just one sitting.
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Make Him Feel That He Matters
There are many ways to make him fall in love with you, but the best technique is to make the man you like to feel that he matters.
This does not mean you have to make grand gestures to make him feel important.
It can be as simple as being physically and mentally present when you are with him. When you are out, even on a friendly date.
Remember details about him and his family, such as his parent’s anniversary or his niece’s birthday. These simple courtesies will make him feel that he is integral to your life.
Play The Mystery Card
The smart move is to play your shroud of mystery.
Don’t appear so impressed when he’s starting to brag about his double-degree program or fancy cars.
Focus on other members of his group for five minutes or so before lending all ears when he starts talking/bragging.
Don’t Be The Eager-Beaver
You scan the room and see a gorgeous guy surrounded by your group of friends. You feel that he’s checking you out.
You make eye contact and immediately feel the spark, the fireworks, or whatever you call it. However, he’s obviously the target of every adoring girl in the room. What would be your next move?
When you’re ready to start a conversation with him, play it cool and ask why he made such life choices, for example. In this way, you can avoid looking so shocked by his achievements. It’s a major turn-off for a guy when he sees that a girl is too eager to get his attention.
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Be True To Yourself
Most men are bold enough to advertise that they like someone. From simple to grand gestures, men have mastered the art of making a girl swoon.
However, most women find it incredibly hard to express themselves whenever they are around the man of their dreams. They always fear judgment even if they are blessed with good looks and (hot) bodies.
Granted that physical attractiveness plays an important role in scoring lots of drinks at the bar, other intangibles will make a guy fall for you. Guys are not all shallow, believe it or not.
Nothing is sexier than being comfortable in your skin. For instance, when you’re wearing a smokin’ outfit for the night but are not confident or comfortable with it, this would translate to how well you would relate to a guy. The bottom line is guys are impressed with girls who are confident with who they are.
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